Date at your children’s risk
If you choose to date, know that you are doing so not just at your own risk, but also your children’s. Remember, every man you bring into your home will have an affect on your children.
I know it’s unfair. Your ex-husband left you and your children to build what he believes will be a better life, and it probably involves another woman. Perhaps she’s 10 years younger and 30 pounds lighter than you.
Part of you would like nothing more than to find a George Clooney clone and bump into your ex while climbing out of your date’s convertible Jaguar XK on a warm spring day.
After all, your ex can go out whenever he likes because he’s not tied down by children. He can go away for weekend jaunts without planning. He can be 21 years old again. Shouldn’t you be able to do the same?
Perhaps, but what about your children?
If you find a man and start dating him seriously, what will happen if your children become attached to him and the two of you break up? Your children will be abandoned by yet another man, regardless of who broke up with whom.
Without question, some second (or third) marriages involving children work out fine, and everyone winds up happier than The Brady Bunch. I couldn’t be happier for them.
But many do not work out. Are you willing to take that chance? Are you willing to risk breaking your children’s hearts yet again?
Only you can answer these questions, but you should think carefully before jumping into the dating pool. Your children need someone who will make them a priority. How can you do that if you’re busy dating?
Your ex-husband chose not to make his children his priority. The least they deserve is a parent who considers them the most important people on the planet.
What about you?
So that’s it. My non-definitive, unauthoritative list of advice for single mothers. I’m sure I’ll think of more as I go about my days, just as I’m sure I’m missing some other great advice.
What advice would you give to single mothers?